That would be nice. A year later, she called, wanting to "meet up for drinks". ... You don’t want to have to go through the next few years feeling as though you have to hide your relationships from an ex and I … It buys you time for her feelings to run their course, which makes bad memories of you in the relationship fade. I was dating this guy too.. and he just suddenly wouldn't even answer my phone calls. 7. Here are 7 reasons your ex might pop up months (or even years!) She'd even like to be friendly acquaintances. So it's clear that we've both moved on. ... Stephanie Seymour's son Harry Brant dies at age 24 of accidental drug overdose after years-long battle with addiction I think you have to do no contact forever now. Apparently my ex is not the same person anymore. Heartbreaking in fact. But i still didnt contact him(it was really hard not to). Imagine you walk into a room full of women and you see a beautiful woman. Perhaps your X has chosen a similar path...I don't know. Regardles of the consequences of the approach, relationship, heartbreak... Whatever. All that matters is that I have a heart which is why I don't want to throw away her pictures that should mean something to her. A year later, she called, wanting to "meet up for drinks". I haven't spoken to her sister in a while. This could be for all different reasons. Since she cheated on me shouldn't I be the one holding a grudge? Well I accepted her choice, and now I have a nice new towel and DVD’s (I threw out the toothbrush and her dog food). have you done a "read receipt" on the ones you have sent? It buys you time to spend in the gym , dating other women , and work on becoming a better man . The woman I fell in love with 10 years ago has clearly left the planet. Try not to take it personally, no one knows what's in her head but her...and if she chooses not to share that information there's really nothing you can do. The new guy died of Alcohol poisoning 6 weeks after the Ex left me for him. You want to get to know her, you have a positive emotional interest in her. Actually funnily enough I’ve unintentionally collected quite a bit of furniture and stuff from different ex’s, as I came to this country with just about nothing, and they thought I could make good use of it, and didn’t want it back during the breakup and then went into NC. So I told her that I'm done wasting my time and I will break my computer before I ever send her another email. She is starting to turn into my mother when it comes to guys. She doesn't want to have anything to do with you. e-mail; 57. I haven’t chased her but backed off. So I wanted to share. It could be for a myriad of reasons, she may not be holding a grudge at all. Found out a year later, she was married. It's been 3 years bro. Well.. that's awful.. but i'm glad you got some closure and are able to send the pics to her sis. It’s important to keep in mind that he’s your ex boyfriend, not your current one. Of course your not. Why should I give her any? I want some peace of mind and not have to feel hated. maybe she just feels uncomfortable? There could be all manner of reasons why she does not contact you, perphaps she feels resentment torwards you that things have not worked out the way she planned ( even though you are not to blame), perhaps its guilt over the break-up, perhaps she feels that you may want to get back together even though you have stated you don't. If she suddenly became single tomorrow I bet she would be contacting me within a month to apologize. I wasn't a horrible boyfriend and she wasn't a horrible girlfriend either. The woman I fell in love with 10 years ago has clearly left the planet. Just an idea. 1. It's very sad I know. I now realize that secretly I had wanted her to pick up her stuff just to get to talk to her, talk over the breakup instead of NC, and get some closure. There is residual anger from the breakup. So I saw no harm in saying a friendly hello a few times a year. I know i was once in a similar situation with a fling that went into NC, I started asking her if she wanted to pick up her toothbrush, towel, a pile of DVD’s, and some of her dog food. I worked hard, did everything for him, but it wasn’t enough.They married 18 months after our divorce ( 9 months ago, and went on honeymoon to one of “our” favourite places) They have a fantastic lifestyle, whereas I have had to go back to work. I know you are only wanting to do the right thing. Imagine you walk into a room full of women and you see a beautiful woman. I'll make this quick. This could be because of her involvement with the boyfriend, or perhaps she fears you won't get over her and she has no feelings towards you. I don't know your ex, but from what I'm reading, you want something from her that she doesn't want to give. However after zero response I emailed her sister. I bet her sister feels the same way. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. I know that Jenn doesn't want me to talk to you, but I Don't care anymore what she says. They were not very happy with her. I understand your frustration that you can spend 10 years of your life with someone and although things have not worked out in the long run, you can't even remain on friendly terms. But it's not worth the hassle and mental strain, is it? If she doesn't want to talk to me then why can't she reply and tell me that. At some point, in the ensuing weeks or months following the end of the relationship, your now ex-girlfriend can cut off contact with and flat out ignore you. Guess what? Regardles of the consequences of the approach, relationship, heartbreak... Whatever. That sealed the deal. It seems incredibly imature to me. Isn't that nice? Hmmm... yeah.. i have no clue why some people just suddenly turn into other people, not even resembling themselves. Now the ball is in her court. I did decide to not bother with her anymore after getting no response for such a long period of time. I've made it clear to her that I didn't want her back. But I still absolutely hate being ignored and treated so rudely. March 27, 2007 in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships. Shortly after that she met a new guy who she has been with ever since. So I tried to do the right thing and get them back to her. It seems incredibly imature to me. if they want to meet so i can give them their stuff then that's great. The new guy died of Alcohol poisoning 6 weeks after the Ex left me for him. Talk about Karma! You would think she could handle this better than a girl who is 12. Reasons why your ex is ignoring you They still love you. I don't need to be a jerk just because she acted like one. My ex still loves me but I don’t want to be together again. I ignore her completely. She claimed he was just a friend. Actually funnily enough I’ve unintentionally collected quite a bit of furniture and stuff from different ex’s, as I came to this country with just about nothing, and they thought I could make good use of it, and didn’t want it back during the breakup and then went into NC. I was with a girl for 2 years, she dumped me, 6 months later called and wanted to be "friends" even cried in front me asking for a friendship, I told her I couldn't, it was too hard. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. But for some reason my most serious relationship ever has resulted in an ex-girlfriend who can't even manage to say a friendly hello. WHY. In addition, she went out to Six Flags with him and his friends last week. but he told me that his ex is his best friend. I've had a couple of different girlfriends as well. So here is a list of reasons that will give you an answer to the question why does my ex-boyfriend ignore me. That email was sent several days ago and I still have not received a damn thing. My brother doesn't talk to me hardly either anymore. Ask yourself why you are really contacting her? Whenever I send her something I just go by memory. It must feel like you have wasted 10 years. However each and every time my mail gets totally ignored. Photos of her family. Ex still totally ignores me after 3 years! Anyway... it doesn't matter anymore. I think you have done all you can, she doesn't want to communicate, fine............its her loss. How can someone act like that never meant anything to them? Your motivation isn't completely innocent. Are you mad...She likes you, your nuts for not feeling the same !!! In addition, she went out to Six Flags with him and his friends last week. Now why did you not talk to the girl in the corner who idolises you, why did you not notice her, why not talk to her, beginning a relationship with her ??? BREAKUPS SURE SUCK. Actually alot of my family got mad at her. And I was the one who used to drive to see him. forget your ex.. her sister sounds nice! I just found 400 photos of hers that I didn't know I still had. She doesn't give me any respect. She doesn't. And you need to ask yourself why are you so eager to get in contact with her to “give them back”. Resorting to magical thinking is one way that people hold out hope that their ex still loves them after a breakup. Not only do you have the end of an intimate relationship to worry about, but it feels like your very existence is being rejected too. Is this a lifelong grudge? This could be for all different reasons. Is it because you are thinking about her, is it because she was the last person whom you loved very dearly? he met a girl and they have been together for 15 years. it woudl just make me feel uncomfortable. Afterwards, he replied to my igstory and started to initiate contact w me. Of course your not. She has a BF and I know they are happy. So when a relationship ends and the emotional interest is gone so to does the desire to communicate, or bother with the person. Photos of her family. All that matters is that I have a heart which is why I don't want to throw away her pictures that should mean something to her. She lied and cheated. I think you have to do no contact forever now. And you need to ask yourself why are you so eager to get in contact with her to “give them back”. John if you didn't throw away the pictures can you please send them to me? I had not contacted her since last August. They were not very happy with her. His people subtly try to convince you to talk to him. So it may be that he’s come to terms with the end of your relationship and put you past behind. This is a choice I've made and it will be this way forever. In the end material assets aren’t that important, and people often put more weight on the emotional implications of the items, or in breaking NC for one last meeting etc. My X and I parted ways last summer...she chose the breakup (though I sure made her decision easier...I blew it). I have had several exgirlfriends who have never had a problem keeping in touch with me. Talk about Karma! But I found her myspace account and dropped her a brief note the other night. Hope all is well!". I even told her in the lastest letter that It's fine if she doesn't want to be friends and I understand if she wants nothing to do with me. She might be asking herself the same thing about you, "What is HIS problem". My brother doesn't talk to me hardly either anymore. I don't believe in this immature game of ignoring people hoping that they will eventually go away. She moved out. I sent her an email letting her know that and asking what to do with these photos. My Ex told her sister to stop talking to me because she felt it was keeping me in her life. I had always treated her with respect and we did have a great relationship, so I thought. Seeing your ex’s name pop up on your phone can produce a visceral reaction, like the one Glantz mentioned above. Trust Me.... She has read each and every email I've sent, but refuses to respond. But unfortunately you cannot control how she responds. Information that I found out from her sister. During that month, we saw each other frequently due to camps and stuff. Mine left me after 40 years, for a woman 25 years younger. Silence could be a way of saying that she does not want to engage with you any more. I found out later that my ex did still love me, and when he told me it was over, ... do yourself a big favor and ignore it. Just remember to keep an open mind. I know you have unresolved issues, and you don't want to be enemies... but I think you have done enough, time to move-forward. 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